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21 Personal Evolution Strategies

To evolve more quickly and easily…

The first seven - tell us what you think!

1. Surround yourself with new ideas instead of recycling your beliefs.
Beliefs can limit your ability to experience life as it unfolds.

2. Make chaos your friend.
The unexpected is a good thing as long as you’re open to it.

3. Let your environments do most of your evolutionary work for you.
Evolution occurs as you adapt to such environments.

4. Use tolerations to your advantage.
Every single thing you are putting up with is an opportunity waiting to be leveraged.

5. Constantly experiment.
Synchronicity is the reward.

6. Spend more time in nature.
Nature nourishes and recalibrates our natural systems.

7. Become the host of a thriving network.
Let your network evolve you as you serve them.

Commemorating Thomas Leonard, Father of Coaching | Part 5

All good things must come to an end, and here we are on the last day of the special five day email event remembering Thomas Leonard. Today we are going to finish by carefully peeling back the layers of Thomas mind and visiting some of his light-hearted, funny, and maybe just a bit bizarre pieces of work.

First let’s take a look at what happened when Thomas wrapped his creative mind around a new piece of graphics software. Looking at his creations you can almost see the smile on his face as he started thinking of all the different possibilities and going crazy pushing this new program to its limits. Each logo pushes the boundaries in a slightly different direction and you can feel how Thomas was stretching his creativity and seeing what he could do. Even more insight is gained when you realize that Thomas never used any of these logos, he simply exercised his mind and his talents, then stuck them on a page; another environment he could activate when needed.

what ceiling add or just caffeine
be annoying
edges
fear is natural
movement
be there. or not
turmoil stimulates
balance is overrated
compensate for vanilla
swing

Our final piece of Thomas memorabilia was written over ten years ago and really shows how Thomas valued the belief that you must be creative and take risks; whether you are right or wrong, whether it works or not, or whether anyone was ever going to see your work. The key is to challenge your own thoughts, expand your ideas, and take risks with your creativity. Constantly experiment.

This top ten list shows how Thomas brought the idea of creative risk taking alive:

The Top 10 American Practices That Will Be Labeled Barbaric by 2010.

1. Eating animal products.
Meat, dairy.

2. Hunting and fishing.
Killing anything with a central nervous system.

3. Moral Judgment.
Labelling anyone as immoral.

4. Sales.
The consumer will buy, not be sold to.

5. Bigotry.
Racial, sexual orientation, culture.

6. Classroom, programmed/track schooling.
Will be replaced by lifelong virtual learning.

7. Government.
What’s the point?

8. Anger.
In any form.

9. Striving/Acquiring.
Goal setting, competition, seeking will be replaced by attraction/occurence.

10. Sports.
Sports are a glorified vestige of war.

Was Thomas writing this top ten list with tongue firmly planted in cheek? We will never know, but knowing isn’t what matters in this case. What matters is what we take from this top ten list, what we choose to learn from yet another example of Thomas’ creative mind.

Thomas took a risk over ten years ago with this top ten, joking or not. Now here we are in the year 2010 and we now have the opportunity to ask the same question: what top ten things do you think are going to happen in ten years, or not happen, if you choose to follow Thomas lead?

What risk are you avoiding with your creative projects? How would your place as a thought leader in your chosen field change for the better if you were willing to take that risk no matter whether it worked, whether people agreed, or whether that risky idea ever saw the light of day?

Until February 16th, to help commemorate Thomas’ passing, we are holding a 20% off sale of all Thomas publications, newly polished and published in print. To activate the discount please use coupon code: MEMORIES when you place your order.

Thanks for joining us. We hope you enjoyed the little ‘fuss’ we kicked up to celebrate Thomas’ life of value.
The Best of Thomas Team

Commemorating Thomas Leonard, Father of Coaching | Part 4

Day four of our special memories of Thomas newsletter is here. Welcome back! I want to thank you for joining me on this inspirational and thought provoking journey into the life of Thomas Leonard. I hope you have not only been sharing in the memories presented here, but have also undergone some real perspective shifting changes as we dig deep into this material and learn more about the man behind all of the ideas.

Today we are going to get a chance to taste one of Thomas’ memetic environments and answer some really important questions that are going to continue to challenge your way of thinking and open up new, fresh, actionable ideas on how to apply this memory of Thomas to transforming yourself into a thought leader.

What made the man think the way he did? How was it that he was so creative? How did he connect so many seemingly disparate things?

Many people aspire to the level of creativity and innovation that Thomas Leonard embodied. One of the major ways that he attributed his flow of creativity was how he nourished his mind. Very early on he made public the list of magazines and newspapers he read many of which are listed below. Not only did he surround himself with a regular list of magazines Thomas was also known to, every once in awhile, go out and buy a whole bunch of new magazines to add to his list, which continued to grow. In fact, after his passing many people would be surprised with the number and titles of magazines and books we found.

Have a look at some of these titles, listen to Thomas discuss this piece of his memetic environment, then ask yourself if, perhaps, some of your creativity could be jump started by some nourishment from magazines connected to fields other than the one you are spending the most time in. What new and unique ideas could you cook up if you randomly chose two of the magazines on Thomas’ list and mixed the ideas into some new and amazing flavour?

Thomas and RV
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Thomas’s notes on some of the magazines he read:

Dwell – Why? Edgy architectural magazine. Jars my creativity.
Popular Mechanics – Why? Gadgets, tools. Easy way to keep up.
Utne Reader – Why? Cheaper than a pair of Birkenstocks.
Scientific American – Why? So outside of my thinking/interests. Evolutionary stimulant.
Enlightenment (Now EnlightenNext) – Why? Mind stuff.
Fast Company – Why? Everyone else is quoting from it. Gotta read it. Yawn.
Red Herring – Why? I like the name of it.
Wallpaper – Why? High style/design. Inspiringly so. The ultimate physical environment.
Wired – Why? Intellectually stimulating. Convergence of science, technology, philosophy.
Travel and Leisure – Why? Fantasy
Worth – Why? General financial/investing learning.
Real Simple – Why? As a reminder to uncomplicated my life.

Listen to this 5 minute clip of Thomas discussing magazines and his memetic environment. (listen to the entire environments audio here)

Until February 16th, to help commemorate Thomas’ passing, we are holding a 20% off sale of all Thomas publications, newly polished and published in print. To activate the discount please use coupon code: MEMORIES when you place your order.

As we continue this week-long commemoration of Thomas in 2010, stay tuned tomorrow when we talk about Thomas, creativity and risk-taking.

We hope you found this enjoyable,
The Best of Thomas Team

Commemorating Thomas Leonard, Father of Coaching | Part 3

Greetings to day three of the Memory of Thomas newsletter. Last email we took a lengthy, but intriguing look into Thomas’ condo in central Phoenix and, hopefully, gained some mind-shifting insights into the importance of the physical environment. Today we are lucky enough to take a peek into two more of Thomas’ important environments: his RV and his Millennium tour.

One of the most fascinating and legendary aspects of Thomas’ life was the RV that he called home during much of his coaching work, made famous in a Newsweek article on February 5, 1996 that featured Thomas coaching from his RV in a different location every night.

Thomas and RV

The RV itself was the subject of a great deal of conversation in Thomas’ courses including “A Perfect Life”. He would often talk about fixing little things around his RV and how he reveled in and enjoyed the fact that it was such a small space because it actually enabled him to stay decluttered and make sure that every last tiny detail was perfect. Nothing was out of place. He even had a Friday checklist that he completed every week listing the things that he would do to keep his RV maintained. It was all wonderfully thought out and formulaic so that his living needs disappeared into the background and his creativity was fully supported.

rv floorplan

Of course the other part of the RV mystique was the transformation of this living space into the evangelist RV that toured the countryside exposing people to the word “coach” painted across the side. Thomas was a lonely soldier, being the ambassador of, and living this thing called coaching.

This is an incomplete but none-the-less interesting graphical representation of the cities Thomas visited on his Millennium tour.

millenium tour map

Unbeknownst to many, though of course Thomas wanted to spread the word about coaching, the Millennium tour also supported his own personal evolution. Thomas was the first to admit that he had stage fright and this tour was his way of getting over that in a not surprisingly, over the top, Thomas way: putting himself in front of a microphone over and over again in each of these cities.

A list of a few of the cities Thomas visited helps to give the true scope of this undertaking and reveals just how amazingly passionate Thomas was about letting the world learn about coaching.

San Diego, California
Salt Lake City, Utah
Denver, Colorado
Little Rock, Arkansas
Baton Rouge, Louisiana
Nashville, Tennessee
Raleigh, North Carolina
Burlington, Vermont
Vancouver, British Columbia
Montreal, Quebec

Whether working from his home base in Phoenix, or traveling across the country in his mobile coaching platform it becomes clear how absolutely, truly important spreading the idea of coaching to everyone who would and wouldn’t listen was to Thomas. Once again Thomas unique approach to life provides us all with a model to follow when thinking of how we can help introduce others to the coaching profession that, through his love and tireless work, Thomas brought to life.

Until February 16th, to help commemorate Thomas’ passing, we are holding a 20% off sale of all Thomas publications, newly polished and published in print. To activate the discount please use coupon code: MEMORIES when you place your order.

As we continue this week-long commemoration of Thomas in 2010, stay tuned tomorrow when we talk about Thomas his mind nourishment.

We hope you found this enjoyable,
The Best of Thomas Team

Commemorating Thomas Leonard, Father of Coaching | Part 2

Welcome to day two of our special remembrance of Thomas Leonard. Let’s jump right in to today’s memories with a slightly off-kilter and interesting question: what do crabs and Thomas Leonard have in common?

According to Thomas: dependence on a carapace. Thomas strongly believed that his success was more dependent on his external environments than on his internal willpower. Like a crab, Thomas depended more on an external shell for his support than he did on his own internal skeleton.

Think about that difference for a moment. Mull it around in your head and try to pinpoint a few areas in your own life where leaning fully on your external environments could really make a difference to what you are working on. What areas of your life would benefit from having your very own crab shell?

This idea of external environments naturally leads us to a place of curiosity about how Thomas designed his own environments. Most people remember one of Thomas’ most unique environments, the RV he lived in and drove around the country spreading the word on coaching. Fewer people realize that Thomas also lived in a condo in central Phoenix.

The precision with which Thomas crafted his condo environment opens a special window into Thomas’ character and how he walked his talk. Thomas didn’t just teach personal environments, he took great care to design each aspect of his own environments to pull him forward. As you look at the photos below and read Thomas’ captions try to place yourself in the space Thomas created, see how each piece was carefully selected, and get a feel for how his environments would be a positive influence on you.

genius coaching

my fave glass table from ligne roset (france). don’t spill.


studio

the work space. yep, it’s clean. art has been hung since pix taken.


wall projects

my project wall. projects, lots of projects.


bedroom

way comfy bed. flannel sheets. bed from bo concept.
(the right lamps are ordered; the art is being reframed.)


The final picture (don’t scroll down yet!) is a perfect example of Thomas using his physical environment to stimulate his creativity. Listen to Thomas discuss this piece of art (6 minute audio of Thomas) and read the transcript below. As you listen to the audio and read the transcript create a picture in your head of what the art piece looks like. Then, scroll to the bottom of the newsletter with these questions in mind: how does the actual piece of art differ from the image you held in your mind? What impact would adding a perspective-altering piece of art like this to your personal environment have on your creativity?

“Same thing with my home, with my physical environment. I need to have art on the walls in order to be stimulated in unexpected ways. So I got this piece of art, of like you know five pieces of original art now one of which is a series of four panels of men on forks. Ok, it doesn’t make any sense right? It’s innovative, it’s different, and it’s stimulating. It’s a high quality piece of art by a well know Phoenix artist and it just, it’s something that is so not me, you know what I mean?

In terms of its, you know, who would think men on forks? What’s the, you know there’s no segue there, there’s no connection. But, that’s the idea, I wanted to be stimulated so I use art as a way to nourish, inspire, and stimulate. And so I use my environments. I couldn’t come up with my own inspiration so I use external inspirations. It’s one small example.”

men on forks

this piece is called men on forks. makes little sense. a good reminder
that juxtapositioning is everything. by an arizona artist. 10 feet wide.
big piece. furniture from bo concept (denmark)


As we finish off our second memory of Thomas newsletter take a deep breath and spend a minute focusing on where you are sitting. Notice how everything around you affects your thoughts and your body; take the time to really feel your place in the room.

Now that you are truly noticing the space around you ask yourself, with Thomas’ in mind, what is one small change you could make, right now, that would instantly improve your physical environment?

Until February 16th, to help commemorate Thomas’ passing, we are holding a 20% off sale of all Thomas publications, newly polished and published in print. To activate the discount please use coupon code: MEMORIES when you place your order.

As we continue this week-long commemoration of Thomas in 2010, stay tuned tomorrow when we talk about Thomas and his stage fright.

We hope you found this enjoyable,
The Best of Thomas Team

Commemorating Thomas Leonard, Father of Coaching | Part 1

Have you ever wondered what kind of telephone Edison had in his home? Or imagined the light fixtures in Newton’s office?

During the course of his lifetime, Thomas’s work impacted thousands of people.  Just one of his training companies had 39,000 members, and those members were avid fans who evangelized his work further, so it’s safe to deduce that his ultimate reach was in the hundreds of thousands.

But what if he were to return to his roots, and set up a new website for himself as a coach providing one-on-one services?

If he were to design the best website he could in order to attract and filter the right clients for him….

Do it in a way that would bring him a sustainable source of 6-figures each year…

And, not least, in a manner that made sense of his particular talents…

What would that website look like?

Funnily enough, Thomas answered this question in 2002 in the Full Practice 100 course for Coaches seeking to build their businesses.

And here is what he came up with:

Genius Coaching – Appropriately Complex.

genius coaching

Note that he walked his talk and put into practice many of the things he was teaching coaches at the time.  And note too, that many of these lessons continue to apply today:

  • Make sure your language is benefit and/or outcome oriented.
  • Where possible be very, very specific, in order to convey to the reader instantly that they’re in the right place.
  • Keep it clean and simple to avoid confusion.
  • Let your personality show in order to shine in a sea of other coaches.

Of course, the latter is reflected in the graphical treatment Thomas created himself, with apparent glee, never one to turn down the chance to play with another feature in his graphics software. (It was one of his great joys, and talents, and saved his training company thousands of dollars monthly – he did almost all needed graphics for all projects until the last years of his life.)

The biggest frustration Thomas expressed was with coaching websites that were too generic, too amorphous, not edgy enough.  Throughout the classes he taught, he returned to the importance of a coach knowing themselves well enough in order to be CLEAR of their value.  Part of getting to that clarity was to practice coaching, often and with many, pro-bono if easier.

He was always sensitive with feedback, but it may well have been that he felt the generic coaching brochures and websites ran the danger of giving coaching a bad name.

So how to get more specific with your website?

Let’s use Thomas’ own imaginary website as a guide, since it employs the principles that are true today.

genius coaching - drop down menu

The dropdown menu you see in the above graphic, when live and working on a site, would offer these options:

  • I’ve got this really big product idea and I need someone to help me package it properly.
  • I operate 5 years ahead of the market place and I could use some validating echos right about now.
  • I’ve got plenty of IQ but I can’t seem to focus consistently.
  • My friends tell me I need to polish up my act because I’m too geeky.
  • I’ve got too many projects floating around and nothing’s getting done.
  • I’ve got the germ of an idea and I want someone to help me tease it out.
  • I need a coach who is as quick as I am.
  • I’m getting burned out by my creative process.
  • My self care totally sucks and I’m ready to do something about it.
  • I just want to spend my days tinkering, but I need to work out my finances.

Getting coaching clients is a sorting conversation

As you look at his website, do you get a sense that Thomas really understands, and stands in the shoes of his prospective clients?

In what way do you think this site did a good job of bringing the right clients to Thomas as a coach?

How can you transfer what you see here to your own site or your own offerings? Don’t limit yourself to filtering one-on-one coaching clients. What about group coaching clients, people buying information products, and people coming to your events?

More from Planet Thomas:

For more graphics that Thomas created, for fun, but that were also useful:

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Why not send one today to commemorate Thomas to a friend, or introduce him to someone new?

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More gorgeous eye-candy Thomas dreamed up that helped create the tsunami of interest in coaching and coaches

And for more about how to build a coaching practice through websites, networking, market research and 97 other doable action steps:

Thomas Leonard’s Full Practice 100 for Coaches

Until February 16th, to help commemorate Thomas’ passing, we are holding a 20% off sale of all Thomas publications, newly polished and published in print. To activate the discount please use coupon code: MEMORIES when you place your order.

As we continue this week-long commemoration of Thomas in 2010, stay tuned tomorrow when we ask what crabs have in common with the man Thomas.

We hope you found this enjoyable,
The Best of Thomas Team

P.S. Love the Genius Coaching graphic design? We’re releasing it into the wild. If you would like your own version of the genius coaching logo, you can download it here:

Genius Coaching Logo

Top 10 Ways to Add Value, for the Sheer Joy of It

To make money in business, you need to add value to customers. And to have a very attractive life, adding value is, of course, key. In this Top 10 List, you’ll learn how to add value to others in ways that can also bring you joy.

In fact, the aspect of the practice of adding value which will make you most attractive is the joy that you experience in doing so, not the quantity or quality of the value you are adding. Big difference. The bees do it right.

They do their thing, going from flower to flower collecting pollen as they go. The byproduct/value being added? Pollination of the trees and flowers. Often, the best value is the byproduct to others of what you do for joy.

1. Find out what the other person places a high value on.

Everybody has their own opinion as to what adds value to their life. Take the time to ask and get to know what other people define as value. You may not want to package or deliver what you have to fit their exact description, but the process of being open will add value to you because it will sensitize yourself to what matters to others. With this expanded perspective comes wisdom.

2. Discover what brings you joy and do lots of that.

Very few people know what brings them joy, but when they find out, they become more attractive to themselves. What does bring you joy? Is it intellectual pursuits? Giving to others? Solving problems? Designing something? Usually when you’re expressing your values, you’ll feel joy. When you experience joy, you’re probably adding a lot of value to others at virtually no cost to yourself.

3. Find ways to broadcast/share what you have/know, without a cost to yourself.

Thanks to the Internet and electronic distribution of information, you can add lots of value to others, without it costing you any extra time or money. Set up a weekly e-newsletter, teach a TeleClass, trainer trainers/teachers, write a book, create audiotapes. These are all ways to increase the distribution of what you know, which add value all along the way.

4. Stop trying to sell, convince, enroll or hype yourself or what you offer.

Part of the process of becoming more attractive is to stop pushing yourself or what you offer onto others. Adding value usually occurs least expensively to both parties when one party takes it from ‘your doorstep’ instead of you knocking on their door. It’s a pretty big change in style, but few people who are pushing hard experience joy. So, stop, and find a better way to make your business work or reach your goals.

5. Help others create tremendous value from what you provide; instead of just giving them more value.

You can overwhelm your customers and potential customers with too much value, just as you can fill your mouth so full with food that it’s hard to chew. So, one way to add more value without adding a thing is to show your customers/potential customers how to make the most of what you’ve got. Giving them instructions, coaching them, staying with them as they use your product or service, challenging them to invent new ways to use it, etc., are all ways for more value to be created without you having to give more product.

6. Don’t get your personal needs met by attempting to add value to others.

‘Adding value’ is an attractive mantra, but it becomes less so when it is simply a way to get your needs met. When this is the case, the buyer feels the added value as a hook or a setup, not as a gift. It’s pretty subtle, but it affects the buyer negatively. Add value because it brings you joy, not because it fills a need for you personally.

7. Match what you have to the people who need/want it; customize.

One of the easiest ways to increase the value you deliver without a lot of extra work is simply to repackage or customize pieces of what you offer to fit the exact (and I do mean exact) needs of your best customers. Buyers are getting very picky and exacting; each of the forty shades of beige/ecru/bone matters a great deal to the person buying those shoes. The same is true for almost every product or service today. Plus, it’s fun to customize if you’re at all creative.

8. Get into synch with a large trend and move forward to the head of it.

Because the bulk of what is called value added in our information age is intangible (information and skills, not brick and mortar), the more you can add value to other people’s intangibles, the better. And keeping up with trends which will affect the value of information and other intangibles, is the perfect lookout-position! Right now, two meta trends (that’s meta, although these are mega as well), are the Internet and ‘meaning.’ Perfect your knowledge of these, and their implications, and you’ll be adding a lot of value because it will upgrade what you currently offer without you having to upgrade that.

9. Put people together in networks which mean a lot to them.

You can add a significant amount of value by doing what may come naturally to you — putting people in touch with each other. Whether you have a big Rolodex or are developing one, the more people you put together, the more value that everyone receives. And if you can sponsor, host or create special-interest networks, that’s even better. People need to belong (emotionally) and need resources (professionally), now more than ever. You can provide this service without any extra work.

10. Become a coach and/or master the full set of coaching skills.

A coach is someone who shows you how to do or master something, whether it be to reach an important goal or to make a difficult change. A coach stays with you and helps you select the goal, engage with it, progress through it, achieve it and integrate the accomplishment into your life. People need this level of care and 1-1 touch. Show people how, don’t just tell them how.

Unleashing Project Thomas To The Public (That’s you.) | What Would You Like? What Do You Need? What Would Help Most?

Interviewed as I was by Mark Joyella, @coachreporter of www.CoachingCommons.org last Friday morning while in New York, I had the opportunity to express the desire to take requests from you, dear reader, about the things you wish would happen with Thomas’ body of work.

If you haven’t seen the video itself yet, look for it here:  http://www.coachingcommons.org.

A few requests have begun trickling in:

  • “I have a big corporate gig I’m bidding for, for 2010, and I would love to discuss how some of the Thomas material could play a part in that” (Experienced corporate coach approaching a Fortune 500 pharmaceutical company.)
  • “I’m a teacher running a coach training program. Would you be willing to allow the 15 Proficiencies to be repackaged for this purpose?”
  • “I loved the Toleration Free program when I took it and would love to teach it in groups and workshops for my retirement market. Will you be making that available?”
  • “Where are the Thomas Leonard t-shirts??”

My imagination tells me there must be more of these kinds of requests, and I know I haven’t been vocal enough about being very open to them.  So thank you to the Coaching Commons for springing wide this conversation.  I truly am eager to hear how this mountain range of material can be pressed into best service for us all.

Comments, suggestions, insights, requests - all will be replied to in email with more details. Thank you very much in advance!

Proficiency #13. Relishes the Truth

This may sound obvious, and it’s deeper than that.

After all, truth is a level above mere honesty, as in there is always a truth about a situation, person or event that, when discovered and articulated, can transform one’s life or business. Certified Coaches have come to enjoy and orient around truth as a source of joy and guidance.

What are some key distinctions?

1. The perspective that truth provides calms people down.

Relishing the truth actually takes the pressure off. Some clients won’t want to tell you the truth they see because they think they have to make a change, and they might not be ready. If you help them relish the truth, naming it actually feels like a relief. It no longer has the power of the secret they can’t tell anyone.

2. Strategy and direction become clear.

Once the truth is articulated, and relished, things move much faster - the strategy becomes obvious.

3. Timing is everything.

As always, use your interpersonal skills and intuition to know when the client is ready to hear about this. You can still relish the truth, just make sure the client is open to hearing about it.

4. Relish the Client’s truth.

The point is to relish the client’s truth, not your opinion about what the client’s truth should be. This is part of respecting the client’s humanity.

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What is the model for relishing the truth?

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How does relishing the truth make you a better coach?

1. Relishing the truth opens possibilities.

When you and your client look at the truth with anticipation and excitement, it changes the chemistry of the coaching relationship. You both are more excited and having more fun, and thus open possibilities.

2. Takes the pressure off.

Both you and the client will feel less pressure, so you can just enjoy the conversation. This shifts from having to always be working at something to letting something be or evolve.

3. Reduces client fears.

Clients may fear that they always have to be working at something, or that the truth is “hard.” By relishing with them, these fears are reduced or eliminated. Then they have room and space to change if they want to.

4. The client reorients to truth.

When a client discovers something, he generally reorients. Sometimes it is a simple redefinition, other times a whole rug-pull experience.

5. Clients understand themselves better.

As a result of understanding a situation better, the client understands themselves better. Particularly if you ask relishing questions…

What are some general truths about relishing truth?

  1. Truth is something to be enjoyed, not avoided.

  2. Clients avoid putting truth on the table because they think they will have to do something about it.

Want more insight and guidance into ways to be more provocative as a coach, and add value to your clients? The newly-produced print and audio collection ‘Thomas Leonard’s 15 Coaching Proficiencies’ is now available in early-launch pricing.

The 15 Proficiencies are a fundamental and historically-pivotal, not to mention immediately useful, coaching model. It’s probably the best-kept secret that CoachVille regrets is a secret, which explains why we’re highlighting it thusly today.

Comment here about how just the above helps you.

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Top 10 Ways to Unhook from the Future

From Principle #2 of 28 Principles of Attraction by Thomas Leonard

You are most attractive when you’re living in the present moment, not living in the future or striving for it. But how does one keep focused on today, yet still attract a better future?

This Top 10 List will help you make this important change in how you live and think.

1. Give up the goals which are seductive.
We all have things we want to achieve or acquire and nothing is wrong with this. But when these types of goals get us worked up to the point that we become more passionate about the future than we are about today, then it’s easy to get into trouble. Whether it’s a goal to get married, make a million dollars, change the world or become somebody, these kinds of goals can lead one down a seductive path where the future is far more interesting than the present. As a result, you lose the present, which is where the real gifts are.

2. Perfect the present.
When your life isn’t as you want it to be, the first thing we tend to do is to set a goal for a better future. Not bad, but if you’d take the same energy and perfect the present right now, you’d probably attract a better future instead of trying to acquire it. Very different approach. The idea is that a better future will find you when you have made the most of the present you’ve been given. The present is a superb teacher; the future is a seducer.

3. Stop watching television.
People get hooked by advertising messages — they cause us to want and ‘need’ more, which is kinda fun, but usually very expensive, given we give up our present quality of life in order to afford that item, tangible or intangible. The tendency is to acquire a lifestyle and confuse that with having a life. If you stop watching television, the future won’t be as seductive, because your present will be more appealing.

4. Stop motivating yourself.
Positive self talk, affirmations, external motivation and other ‘force’ measures can be very, very effective. But they tend to be expensive because they put the blinders on and turn you into a horse running on a track. Better to enjoy all of what you already have to the point that you don’t need to change a thing. At that point, a better future will find you, without the expense of motivation.

5. Stop trying to become a better person.
Give up. I’ve coached too many people trying to become a better person that they lose their humanness. Ego is a very, very positive part of you. Faults are rich and wonderful teachers. Mistakes are golden. Weaknesses are usually just hidden strengths. So, stop trying to improve, declare the game over and get to know 100% of YOU, just as you are. Stop trying to change yourself and you’ll start living much more in the present. The future does not need you to improve, but it does need you to evolve. You can only evolve when you are in the present, not striving for a better future. This is a tricky one, so stay with the it and work it out for yourself.

6. Stop over-planning.
I don’t mean not to plan for your financial future or to give up your important goals. But it’s tempting for some personality types to think that fully laid-out plans and perfectly identified goals are the right thing to do. In fact, they may simply be a mind exercise to reduce risk and fear. Identify a vision or sketch out a plan and then learn-as-you-go, but learn quickly. Better to become a rapid in-the-moment learner than become an expert planner. Life is accelerating so quickly, that most planning skills are irrelevant by the time you master them.

7. Stop hoping.
Life may improve for you, but not because you’re hoping. A popular bumper sticker says it all: “Since I gave up hope, I feel so much better.” If you’re living in hope for something to occur or improve, you’re simply escaping from the present. We all need an escape from the present from time to time; just don’t turn hope (aka the future) into your personal ZIP CODE.

8. Give up future-based possibility.
There is a lot that’s possible in life and many of the best things that will happen to you during life will be things that you never saw as even possible. But does expanding your thinking to consider what’s possible make these things happen more often or sooner? The jury is out on this one. But the idea is that if you see the possibility in the present, instead of what’s possible in the future, you’ll be a lot better off and more attractive.

9. Stop hanging out with strivers.
Strivers can be very fun to be with, but the net result is usually a drain of your energy. Strivers need lots of encouragement and energy from others to keep up their pace. Find folks who are happy with themselves and who are involved in creative endeavors which express their values instead of seeking to succeed.

10. Stop using if/then formulas.
Whenever I hear someone start out a sentence with “if” or “when,” I know they are living in the future. Entrepreneurial types, being optimists, are really good at this. The trick is to take out the words “if” and “when” from your vocabulary. That will help you stay in the present and not set you up to have what you want to occur be conditional or hinge on another person/event, such as “When I get my degree, I will make more money.” Better to say something like, “I am really, really enjoying my studies.” See the difference in orientation?

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